Men, Abortion is Our Fault
As I’ve previously confessed, 20 years ago I paid my girlfriend to murder our unborn daughter. I thank the good Lord daily that she didn’t follow through. My actions represented the moral vacuity and misguided masculinity of modern man highlighting an uncomfortable fact. Men, abortion is our fault.
As the destruction of the family continues unabated and men abdicate their role as husband and provider while refusing to deprive their sexual appetites, young women find themselves confronted with a difficult choice. Per the CDC, unmarried young women with at least one child account for an overwhelming majority of abortions.
Consider what this means. These young women have already been abandoned once by a man, left to a rear a child on their own, an exceedingly difficult task. Now, they are confronted once more with the decision. Should they add to the mouths to feed or out of desperation, pursue the unthinkable?
Yes, I know there are thousands of deviations. Some women have abortions against the wishes of the father just as some men support their children without being married to the mothers. Yet, there exists an increasing multitude of men that walk away. Is it any wonder that women turn to abortion out of desperation?
I also realize, as many pro-life advocates point out, much abortion is a matter of convenience. I do not absolve women of culpability. Many sexually active young women merely do not want to change their lifestyle. They want the sexual pleasure minus the inherent and potential responsibility. How did they get there in the first place?
It is men who convinced young women of their worth in sexuality. Young girls these days are insanely aggressive compared to the young women of my day. They didn’t get that way by chance. This was intentional.
We men established the porn culture and convinced women over the years with a steady drumbeat of messaging and it worked! These days, young women have resigned themselves that seeking the affections of a young man must involve offering themselves physically. Oral sex in the school bathroom replaced a coy look or a subtle smile.
The result is as predictable as it could be. We’ve convinced women that they must sleep with us before marriage and then abandoned them to raise the children on their own. The ensuing slaughter should not have surprised anyone.
Before you denounce the irresponsibility of these young men consider that they had fathers who should have taught them biblical masculinity. One of two things has happened.
- Their fathers were absent. A flood of young men come of age with a concept of manhood forged from shared experience with their peers and a healthy dose of media. Several years ago, I confronted my oldest son for sleeping around on his pregnant girlfriend. Raised in the inner-city with no father – he came to us at age 16 – he responded in exasperation to my appeals, “This is what a man does!”
- Their fathers failed to own their training. The Bible exhorts the man to bring up his sons in the way of the Lord, to make disciples of them. (Proverbs 22:6, Psalm 127) Men have abandoned the church in droves and in effect, vacated their role as spiritual leader of the home leaving it to the mothers to manage. They are present physically but absent spiritually and otherwise content to dally about with work and minutiae. Many fathers even go so far as to encourage philandering, slipping their sons a package of condoms on prom night with a wink and a nod.
Fathers have likewise failed to teach their daughters of their inherent value apart from what they can offer sexually to a young man. A young woman’s worth is closely tied to what she learns from her father. Young women desire to be honored. They want to be cherished. They desperately crave the spiritual leadership of men who would commit to them as husbands. The present reality sadly forces them to acquiesce.
How do I know this? The 53 million dead children since 1973 testify very loudly.
Aside from this modern-day Slaughter of the Innocents, a serious and eternal consequence awaits as God holds a less than favorable view of men who abandon their responsibilities. “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8) In God’s economy, men who impregnate women and then abandon them are worse than those who deny the Father.
Men, God calls us to exactly two things in response.
- Take serious your call to spiritually lead your family and all that this implies. Perhaps you need to start with repentance and addressing your own position before the Lord.
- Offer yourself to father those who would otherwise have no one to teach them these things. A great multitude awaits in desperation.
There it is. The options are as clear as they are simple. Life literally hangs in the balance dependent upon your decisions. What will you do?
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Soldier, Pastor, Author – Bradford stays busy, with his wife Ami, raising their 9 children, serving the nation, pastoring, preaching, and writing books (#3 is due out October ’17).
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