Just How Pro-Life Are You?

by | 6 Apr, 2017 | 17 comments

Several years ago, a man asked me a question that changed my life forever. As recent converts, Ami and I attended a prayer event and one of the things that we prayed for, fervently, was an end to the great evil of abortion. Days later as we recounted the event to a friend he asked, “If you are against abortion, are you willing to take in the unwanted children that the end of abortion would generate.”

We paused, collected ourselves, and paused again. We had no answer. This question, prompted by the Holy Spirit, changed the course of our life in a way that I never could have anticipated.

Abortion is hard, either way. Per the CDC, unmarried young women with at least one child account for an overwhelming majority of abortions. Consider what this means. These young women have already been abandoned once by a man, left to rear a child on their own, an exceedingly difficult task. Now, they are confronted once more with the decision. Should they add to the mouths to feed or out of desperation, pursue the unthinkable?

The pro-life advocate rails, “Evil! Injustice! Don’t do it!” ignoring or forgetting the potentially life-long burden placed upon the woman by the sin of an absent man.

Generally speaking, being pro-life costs me absolutely nothing.

There are many deeply invested. In my town, a group of committed people created the Hope Pregnancy Center offering all manner of pregnancy services including adoption counseling. Thousands of crisis pregnancy centers across the country manned by paid staff and countless volunteers offer a full range of pregnancy services in lieu of abortion. Zealots such as The Center for Medical Progress (CMP) founder David Daleiden and associate Sandra Merritt currently face 15 felony counts in California for secretly recording meetings with Planned Parenthood officials exposing their evil and illegal buying and selling of infant body parts for profit. Yet, they stand accused. Texas dismissed a previous case.

But for your typical pro-life advocate, there is no cost, which is where I was when the Lord first stirred my heart nearly a decade ago.

A 2013 Barna Group study yielded that 5% of practicing U.S. Christians have adopted compared to 2% of all U.S. adults.  3% of U.S. Christians serve as foster parents compared to 2% of the general population.

One takeaway from this is that a practicing Christian is nearly twice as likely to adopt as a non-Christian American. That is great. Yet, another way to look at this is that 95% of Christians have not adopted a child or in laymen’s terms, nearly all of them!

The study indicates that 38% of practicing Christians considered it at some point in time but decided not to go through with it. 38% percent of practicing followers of the Lord Jesus surveyed the plight of the Orphan. In light of the grace and mercy that they themselves received, they examined the sheer volume of children without a home, they looked at the poverty, the addiction, mothers caught up in the whirlwind, the pervasive struggle that they perhaps hold the key to arresting…and they walked.

It has occurred to me that every single one of my sons would have been an ideal candidate for abortion. They were born of the usual suspects of affliction, so stereotypical yet so prevalent in their circumstances. Conventional wisdom would have nearly demanded their termination.

What is the wicked chant from the pro-abortion crowd but, they’ll just have an awful life anyway? Why would we birth a child to a life of destitution? How can we force a woman to carry to term a child she doesn’t want or cannot support?

What if you could provide the answer?

Some time ago I had a discussion with a woman who was a pro-choice advocate. She informed me rather matter-of-factly that if she got pregnant at this point in her life she would have an abortion without hesitation. She was just not in a place where she could afford or even want to afford to care for a child.

I asked her, “What if I told you I’d take your child in and raise it and love it as my own?”

She never answered.

Allow me to clarify my position. I am pro-life and life does not end at birth. I am pro-life from conception all the way through birth and into life outside the womb. Why would we stop at birth and allow the child that we’ve previously sought to defend so vigorously to perish the slow death of destitution?

The word of God pierces as always, penetrating to our hearts, the core of our being. (Hebrews 4:12) As James tells us, “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” (James 4:17) It is a sin to know what is the right thing to do and not to do it.

I want to ask the question asked of me so long ago. If you are against abortion, are you willing to take in the unwanted children that the end of abortion would generate? I pray that the Holy Spirit would speak through this question, that your life might be radically changed as mine once was.

 

 

17 Comments

  1. Gary Jelich

    I’m all for adoption. “Adoption is the loving option.” However, the argument that “If you’re not willing to adopt my baby, I should have the right to kill my baby” is completely fallacious! If someone were to walk up to me and say, “I’m unwanted. Nobody loves me!”, should I then be legally able to pull out a gun and shoot that person to death? I think NOT! Abortion would still be DEAD WRONG, EVEN IF NO ONE would be willing to adopt the child! Any pregnant woman who uses this excuse to be able to kill her unborn child would still be guilty of MURDER!

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    • Bradford Smith

      Sir, I must have misrepresented the argument. In no way would I ever condone abortion. My intent was to exhort the believer to consider adoption and providing a family for a child as an option to abortion. You are correct, abortion is always evil.

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  2. Dana

    I’ve adopted seven children from the foster care system. To my knowledge, not one of these birth mothers ever considered an abortion. Their babies were taken from them, due to their addictions, mental illnesses, inability to keep the child safe. I’m just curious if increased adoptions would actually affect the numbers of abortions?

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    • Bradford Smith

      Definitely hard to prove and establish a causal link. The thoughts of this article were more to the heart of people, that they would provide an option other than abortion to a mother who may be considering.

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    • Heather

      The waiting list for newborn babies is apparently very long. The children you have adopted might not have been put up for adoption as an alternative to abortion, but a newborn baby that is put up for adoption will not have to wait long to be adopted by somebody who loves her/him.

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      • Bradford Smith

        Ma’am, I think that is just as sad because you are correct. Many people will only adopt a baby. There are thousands of teenagers out there dying for a family. We know from personal experience. But everyone is afraid of teenagers so they do not get adopted nearly as often.

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  3. Cristee

    This article goes on the assumption that if a woman chooses not to abort that ALL Christians should then adopt those babies. The fact is most women if given the alternative to abortion would actually choose to keep and raise their child if they had support (financially, physically, emotionally). Shaming Christians who are pro-life to adopt “all the babies” is really irresponsible. I feel that I can speak about this because I myself have two adopted children and I am a Christian with open adoptions with birth mothers who freely have shared with me their reasons for choosing not to abort as well as their reasons for placing their babies in our family.

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    • Bradford Smith

      Ma’am, no intent to shame and great on you for the open adoptions. We do the same. I agree with you that most women would want to keep and raise their child but the fact that a single child goes without a home is a shame upon the Church. It is a great blindspot to our church in America. I’m not sure how God’s people can stand by as children suffer with no permanent family and once they graduate the system without being adopted, they suffer for life.

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      • Cristee

        I wasn’t looking for a compliment that I have open adoptions. Great on the mothers, more than great on me that they choose to be a part of my children’s lives. It’s like the compliment people that give me at what a wonderful person I am for adopting my children. All glory to God that He had adoption as a call and a plan for our family. What if I were to say no Christian should ever have biological children if there are that many babies/children out their that need to be adopted. But think about it. If you say you want two biological children and adopt three, look at the “missed” opportunity to adopt two more. Are we to shame those people too? Shame is a consequence of sin. Are they sinning?You ask “how God’s people stand by as children suffer with no permanent family” is filled with so much judgement. God calls us all to be compassionate to one another and He has calls us each individually within the body to function in many ways “there is one body, but it has many parts. But all its many parts make up one body. It is the same with Christ.” Not everyone is called to adopt, but we are called to care for the widows and orphans. There are many ways pro-life Christians can care for widows and orphans other than adoption. Where in the Bible does God call every Christian to adopt, specifically? And if we don’t are we to be shamed? Why do you use the word “shame”? Not everyone who is a Christian and pro-life is called to adopt a child, but they are called to care for the widows and orphans and I think we are too use the gifts God has given us to do that. I think adoption is wonderful and beautiful and unless you actually do it you will never understand all the blessing that come from it. How about you focus on letting our fellow believers know the beauty of it and the need, instead of shaming and judging them for not understanding the needs. You’re focus is very negative and draws no one to the compassionate need. Sometimes people don’t adopt because they literally don’t know the need. Tell them of the need and let God guide them, instead of you guiding through shaming and judging.

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  4. Kurt Reimer

    I cannot speak for all who are Pro-Choice, but I am Pro-Chouce because I find the notion that a just-conceived enbryo is a Person to be a ridiculous notion.

    To me, making a woman gestate that single cell for nine months, creating what we all agree is obviously her own child, her own flesh and blood, only to have to give her child away to strangers is a monstrous crime against humanity, her humanity in particular.

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    • Bradford Smith

      The embryo has a heartbeat, fingerprints, it’s own DNA. It is a person. When do you surmise that it obtains the status of personhood then?

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      • Kurt Reimer

        Regardless of DNA, heartbeat, whatever, half of all Zygotes never implant, and when they do not no-one tries to rescue them or even mourn them when they die soon after. They are thrown away as menstrual waste. This belies claims that they are persons from conception on. No one treats them as such; it is arrogant hypocrisy to demand that only unwillingly pregnant women be forced to pretend that the embryo is a person from conceotion onwards.

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        • Bradford Smith

          You still haven’t answered. When does it obtain ‘personhood’?

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          • Kurt Reimer

            A very wise statesman, when asked that question, replied with the following wise and humble answer:

            “The answer to that question is above my paygrade.”

            I cannot offer you a ‘magic instant’, some number of nanoseconds post-conception (which is itself a process over an interval time) when every embryo becomes a person. I think it is foolish to postulate or insist that such a thing exist. The reality is that everybody is different, and I believe that only God knows that.

            All I know is that the Zygote is not, the Newborn Baby is, and how could that Newborn have been any less a Person at, say, the start of Labor? The only thing that makes sense is that it (The Zygote/Embryo/Fetus) gradually goes from one to the other.

  5. Flip

    This is what we need – an insight to make evorneye think

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    • Kurt Reimer

      When do *you* think the Embryo becomes a Person? And whatever your answer is, do you live and act by that answer in any circumstance other than when some unfortunate woman needs to have an Abortion?

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  6. Demarlo

    Wow I must confess you make some very tracehnnt points.

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